345: Blended – Emotional Recovery: The Unspoken Journey
Welcome back to Blended! It’s episode 33, I’m joined by a brand new panel of fantastic professionals, and today, we’re talking about surgery, illness, and emotional recovery.
Like many people, this wasn’t something I ever really thought about – until I had to face it myself. In March 2022, I had the first of two surgeries two, hopefully, cure a condition that I’d had (although I didn’t know what it was) for 15 years. And it exposed me to a lot – pain, panic attacks, poor mental health… all while trying to carry on with work and paint on a smile for the rest of the world.
I’m in a much better place now, but it’s been an experience that has really made me think. And, it made me realize how little we really know if we haven’t been through something ourselves. So I thought it was an important topic for Blended because, although we might not talk about it, experiences like this are happening to a lot more people than we might realize.
So today, our guests will be revealing their stories and personal experiences; reflecting on how we can open up conversations and better support others; and sharing their words of advice.
Introductions to our Blended panelists. Melissa – Associate Partner of Finance & Supply Chain Transformation at IBM LaMondre – Speaker and CEO at Billion Strong Dan – Owner at High-Performance Logistics Sales Richard – Vice President of Strategic Accounts at Intelligent Audit “My value and contributions were not diminished because of my diagnosis.” Melissa
The guests share their different personal experiences of illness, surgery, and emotional recovery. Sarah’s experience with Lipoedema Lack of help/disbelief from medical practitioners Dan’s experience with throat cancer The journey of the caretaker Impact on relationships PTSD, anxiety, and depression Fear of returning to work Comparison LaMondre’s experience of spinal muscular atrophy Loss of ability Therapy How surgery can trigger past trauma Richard’s experience of caring for his father Denial Melissa’s experience with breast cancer Why people keep diagnoses a secret Ableism Changing perspectives Lack of understanding and awareness “For me, I had a lot of complications with recovery. The treatment was the ‘easy’ part… from an emotional standpoint, your perspective changes on a lot of things, including what you want to accomplish in life.” Dan “I didn’t want to tell anyone because I didn’t want people to feel sorry for me…. But finally I realised that everyone has someone that’s going through something.” Richard
The panel reflects on how we talk about illness and recovery, and how we can better support friends, family, and colleagues. Vulnerability Honesty Taking the burden of reaching out off the person suffering If you ask, be open to receiving the answer – whatever that is Different perspectives Showing people they’re loved Asking for help Practical support like bringing food Stigma and shame Secrecy and privacy “When I had cancer and I did tell somebody, the first thing I got was “Oh, I’m sorry.” I kept hearing the word sorry…” Melissa “We don’t know what anyone’s going through… so all we can control is our responses. And our responses in all areas should be love.” Richard
.03] The group sums up their thoughts from today’s discussion. “So many of us have to work through trauma, but once you deal with it, there’s a level of empowerment and awakening and, for me, I’ve then wanted to usher people into that space because there’s peace, serenity and confidence that comes from that.” LaMondre
Resources & Links Mentioned
- You can connect with Melissa, LaMondre, Dan, and Richard on LinkedIn.
- If you enjoyed this episode, why not check out 186: Blended – My Journey or 158: Blended – Story of My Life.
- Check out our other podcasts HERE.
